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A farewell to 2020

It’s the All & Sundry year-end review!

What did you do in 2020 that you’d never done before?

Ordered curbside pick-up for my groceries. 

Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

Last year’s resolution was “to try to feel more at home in my body.” I’m not sure how I did with that, and I’m not making another resolution.

Did anyone close to you give birth?

I don’t believe so.

Did anyone close to you die?

Yes. My mother-in-law passed away in November.

What countries did you visit?

I’ve been doing this end-of-year wrap-up since 2006, and this is the first time I had something to report. Isn’t it ironic? Rockford and I went to Mexico for a music festival in January, and it was marvelous. 

What would you like to have in 2021 that you lacked in 2020?

Last year I said, “A greater sense of calm.” Haaaaa-ha-ha-ha. In 2021, I’m hoping to get a COVID vaccine and to be able to see my extended family.

What dates from 2020 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

There are several, for not-great reasons.

What was your biggest achievement of the year?

Getting through it.

What was your biggest failure?

I’m not counting up failures this year.

Did you suffer illness or injury?

Nothing major.

What was the best thing you bought?

A bidet.

Where did most of your money go?

The mortgage.

What did you get really excited about?

The election and the COVID vaccine.

What song will always remind you of 2020?

“Reincarnation.” Jeff Tweedy and his family have been live-streaming “The Tweedy Show” on instagram around four nights a week since March, and I’ve watched all but two episodes. They started playing “Reincarnation” as their closing song early on.

What do you wish you’d done more of?

Four years in a row, I said more family hikes. I’m not saying it again this year. 

What do you wish you’d done less of?

Last year I said “Worrying.” I am once again laughing at my past self. Even so, I’m hoping to have less anxiety in 2021.

How did you spend Christmas?

At home, quietly. 

What was your favorite TV program?

We loved watching “The Mandalorian” as a family again this year, and I’ve also been enjoying “The Durrells in Corfu.”

What were your favorite books of the year?

“Hamnet” by Maggie O’Farrell

“Deacon King Kong” by James McBride

“How Much of these Hills is Gold” by C. Pam Zhang

“The Stormlight Archive” by Brandon Sanderson

“The Big Year” by Mark Obmascik

“Here for It; Or, How to Save Your Soul in America” by R. Eric Thomas

“Jubilee” by Margaret Walker

What was your favorite music from this year?

Jeff Tweedy’s “Love is the King” and Fleet Foxes’ “Shore.”

What were your favorite films of the year?

I did not see a lot of new movies this year, but I loved “Soul.” I think it would’ve been near the top even if I had been able to go to the movies this year.

What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

I turned 42 this year, and it was the day my mother-in-law went back into the hospital for the last time. Not a great day.

What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

C’mon, survey. I’m not answering this one.

How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2019?

Comfort.

I’m trying to Read Harder this year

A friend of mine was posting about all of the books she’d read last year as part of the Book Riot Read Harder Challenge. It’s a list of 24 “tasks” such as “Read a graphic memoir” or “Read a book by or about a refugee” meant to challenge you to read books you might not otherwise be inclined to seek out. There’s also a spreadsheet for tracking your reading that includes space to log whether you purchased or borrowed the title. I’m looking forward to seeing how much money the library saves me this year. <I>And</I> the spreadsheet generates charts and graphs about the titles you’ve read! I am only sorry I didn’t start the challenge sooner.

So far I’ve read:
"The Girl from the Well" book coverThe Girl from the Well” by Rin Chupeco (Read a retelling of a classic of the canon, fairy tale, or myth by an author of color and Read a horror book published by an indie press).
“The Girl from the Well” is a young-adult horror story told largely from the perspective of an onryō, the vengeful spirit from traditional Japanese stories. Like the one from the movie “The Ring,” which scared me so badly I couldn’t close my eyes for a whole night. “The Girl from the Well” was creepy but not terrifying. I slept fine after finishing it.

"Teaching My Mother How to Give Birth" book coverTeaching My Mother How to Give Birth” by Warsan Shire (read an audiobook of poetry
Shire wrote “Home” (no one leaves home unless / home is the mouth of a shark), which you’ve likely seen at least part of on Facebook. I have a hard time with audiobooks because they lull me to sleep, but this one was only around 30 minutes long. I enjoyed hearing the work in the poet’s own voice, and most of the other poems in “Teaching My Mother How to Give Birth” are at least as visceral as “Home.”

"Isaac's Storm" book coverIsaac’s Storm” by Erik Larson (Read a book about a natural disaster)
I was captivated by Larson’s “Dead Wake: The Last Crossing of the Lusitania” when I read it a few years ago, and so I was excited to see that he’s doing a reading for his new book at a local bookstore. The clerk at the store said she liked “Dead Wake,” too, but “Isaac’s Storm” was her favorite Larson book. It’s the story of the hurricane that devastated Galveston, Texas, in 1900. I didn’t find it as engaging as “Dead Wake,” but it is well-written and well-researched.

"All Systems Red" book coverAll Systems Red” by Martha Wells (Read a sci-fi/fantasy novella (under 120 pages))
“All Systems Red” is the first in a series called “The Murderbot Diaries.” It’s about a cyborg security agent on assignment with a research team on a distant planet. I don’t think it really breaks a lot of ground in the “Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep” genre, but it is a very quick, exciting read. Regardless of whether or not it has anything unique to say, I’m a sucker for this kind of story. I think I have the second novella on hold at the library.

"Jubilee" book coverJubilee” by Margaret Walker (Read a doorstopper — over 500 pages — published after 1950, written by a woman)
I saw this described somewhere as a “non-racist alternative” to “Gone with the Wind.” The story is set in Georgia and Alabama and is based on the life of the author’s great-grandmother. It opens with the death of Vyry’s mother, a slave on Vyry’s father’s plantation, and follows her through the Civil War and Reconstruction. I expected the “doorstopper” challenge to be a slog, but “Jubilee” was so captivating it flew by.

I’m currently reading “Born with Wings: The Spiritual Journey of a Modern Muslim Woman” by Daisy Khan for the “read a memoir by someone from a religious tradition (or lack of religious tradition) that is not your own” category. It’s interesting, but it’s taking me awhile to get through. Probably because I keep forgetting to bring it in from the car so I’m only reading it while waiting for the kids to finish their activities. I’ve also started “The Witch Elm” by Tana French for the “read a mystery where the victim isn’t a woman” category. I know people who adore French’s books, but so far I’m finding it difficult to get into this one. I hope that changes, because it would also qualify as a doorstopper book.

2019: A retrospective

It’s the All & Sundry year-end review!

What did you do in 2019 that you’d never done before?
Made bulgogi. And it was delicious.

Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
Last year’s resolution was “to try to drink more water and stop drinking sweet tea.” I may have done OK on the water front, but I definitely didn’t slow down on the sweet tea. My goal this year is to try to feel more at home in my body.

Did anyone close to you give birth?
I don’t believe so.

Did anyone close to you die?
Almost. My mother-in-law had a very close call with an infection in September. She’s still recovering.

What countries did you visit?
Not a one.

What would you like to have in 2020 that you lacked in 2019?
A greater sense of calm.

What dates from 2019 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
I don’t have a good memory. That’s why I blog.

What was your biggest achievement of the year?
I don’t think I accomplished anything worthy of fanfare in 2019.

What was your biggest failure?
Likewise, I don’t think I had any failures worth mentioning.

Did you suffer illness or injury?
Nothing major.

What was the best thing you bought?
I took a writing class in the fall through a local university, and it was a blast.

Where did most of your money go?
The mortgage, I think.

What did you get really excited about?
Watching “The Mandalorian” with Rockford and the kids.

What song will always remind you of 2019?
n/a

What do you wish you’d done more of?
Last year and the year before and the year before that I said more family hikes. This year? More family hikes.

What do you wish you’d done less of?
worrying

How did you spend Christmas?
At home with my in-laws. It was a nice day.

What was your favorite TV program?
I watched and enjoyed a lot of TV again this year. “The Good Place,” “The Mandalorian” and season 2 of “Fleabag” were great.

What were your favorite books of the year?
“Whiskey When We’re Dry” by John Larison, and “Circe” by Madeline Miller

What was your favorite music from this year?
Vampire Weekend’s “Father of the Bride” album and The National’s “I Am Easy to Find.” We saw Vampire Weekend live for the first time this year, and it was the most fun I’ve ever had at a show.

What were your favorite films of the year?
“Knives Out” was the best. I also enjoyed “Frozen 2,” more than I expected to.

What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
The kids had play practice, and Rockford and I met at a pop-up empanada restaurant for dinner. I turned 41.

What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Fewer illnesses in the extended family.

How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2019?
I’m trying to incorporate a little General Leia Organa into my Mrs. Roper aesthetic.